Let’s face it, blind dates are awkward. They can be uncomfortable, they’re usually weird and you usually never know what to expect. But sometimes they are exactly the opposite!
How blind dating works
There are two ways to go on a blind date: the old-fashioned way, by answering a personal ad in the newspaper; and the new-fashioned way, by getting set up by a friend or family member.
The former is one of the best ways to meet someone, provided you can write an interesting personal ad.
If you want to answer a personal ad yourself, be honest and straightforward. State exactly what you’re looking for and what kind of person you are. If you’re looking for a long-term commitment, say so. If you’re not interested in having kids, say so.
Include a photo if possible (and if you’re comfortable doing that). And be prepared for a lot of interesting dates – some of them even with people whom you might actually like!
When a friend or family member recommends a match for you, there is more of a built-in level of trust and comfort. Plus, the person who does the setting up will have insider information about your date and can prepare you for what to expect.
Online dating
Online dating has become increasingly popular in recent years, with more and more people looking for love through the internet.
There are many reasons you might choose to try online dating. Perhaps you have not had any luck meeting someone in your local area and you want to expand your search, or maybe this is just your preference. Whatever the reason, there are many advantages of online dating.
One of these is that you have an opportunity to get to know someone before committing to meet them in person. This can be very helpful if you are nervous about meeting someone or going on a blind date for the first time; it will allow you to get comfortable with someone before actually meeting them face-to-face.
In addition, if you do find someone you want to meet in person, there is no pressure; you can take your time getting comfortable with them through email or chat before deciding if they are someone you’d like to go on a proper date with.
There are lots of online dating apps you can choose from, such as Tinder, Bumble, OkCupid, Grindr, etc.
Be smart
Just because you meet someone online, on a dating app or through a friend doesn’t mean you are in for a safe date.
You need to remember you are meeting a total stranger, so you should be careful and take extra precautions. Let your family/friends know who and where you are meeting and keep them updated about your date.
Even if the date is successful don’t invite them over to your house just yet. Your personal details, such as your address and your work should stay private until you learn to truly trust this person.
If you get a weird vibe from this person don’t be afraid to end the date early and ask the bar staff to help you get home safely.
First date
If you are meeting someone for the first time, we would highly recommend meeting in a group setting versus a one-on-one. Not only is it a safer environment, but also a more casual date where you will feel less awkward.
Whether you go by yourself or with your friends, your first date should always happen over a few drinks instead of having a proper meal. Imagine having to stay for a full meal when you realized in the first few minutes you no longer wish to stay. It’s easier to find an excuse and go home after the first drink.
Conclusion
Blind dating has worked for a lot of people, and who’s to say it won’t work for you! You should go into it with little expectations as with everything and keep your options open. Enjoy yourself and be safe.
If you liked this article, make sure to read our post on what to do when he doesn’t call.
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