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What To Do When He Doesn’t Call?

You know the one. You’ve been on a few dates and you really like him, but he hasn’t called in a few days. Maybe something happened that made him lose interest, maybe he’s just not that into you. Either way, what do you do?

You can wait around for him to call. If you’re like most people, this is probably what you’ll do. After all, who doesn’t want to be loved?

And then there’s the other reaction: anger. Anger feels so much better than hopelessness or rejection, so it’s tempting to lash out and say something cruel to him or about him. But this only makes you look bad and will drive him away even faster.

So what’s left? Here are some tips on how to handle being blown off with grace:

Leave a casual message

But if you do wait for him to call, and he doesn’t, then it’s time to make the next move. Pick up the phone, dial his number and leave a message. Maybe he’s been in an accident or is too busy to call. Focus on something positive. Don’t think that he forgot about you or doesn’t care – guys are insecure by nature, so even though they may not act like it sometimes, they do need your reassurance and support.

Now this part is very important: don’t leave more than one message! If he just seems to be avoiding you then maybe it just wasn’t meant to be.

He’s just not that into you.

When those words are said, it’s a sign to move on. It might be tempting to try and figure out what went wrong or what you did to push him away, but don’t waste your energy. You can’t force someone to have feelings for you, no matter how many late-night conversations you have with him.

One of the best ways to know if he’s interested is to look at how he responds when texting. If he takes hours or days to answer back then chances are he’s not thinking about you as much as you’d like him to.

So if it doesn’t seem like he wants to spend time with you, don’t overthink it. Instead, take this as an opportunity to focus your energy on someone who actually reciprocates your feelings. There are plenty of fish in the sea!

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Go out with friends

The best thing you can do to get him off your mind is to go out with your friends. Have some fun, and dance your stress away.

Know your worth

You are an amazing woman, who deserves to be treated like one. Don’t settle for someone who doesn’t respect you enough to let you know what’s happening.

You are worth so much more than the games people play with your heart. If he is not making time for you, it’s time to move on. You deserve only the best and if he isn’t willing to give you that, then you need to find someone who will. Don’t waste your time with someone who doesn’t want to make time for you.

If you enjoyed reading this article, check out our piece on dealing with jealousy.

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